Instead of being vulnerable and saying what I wanted to say, I was so afraid of being rejected that I would put up walls around me that would prevent any form of a negative experience affecting me.
Now because of these walls, I couldn’t demonstrate my true intentions.
So saying something as simple as “Hey, I just noticed you and thought you looked really cute, so I just wanted to meet you”, would never happen because I was so afraid of her saying no.
Because I would play hard to get, and confuse Women with my “interested-but-disinterested” behaviours, the only girls that I would date were the ones who were so insecure that they would relentlessly chase me down to win me a great thing, and for a short moment, it is.
But then their baggage and insecurities that caused them to be relentless at proving to themselves that they can win over a hard-to-get Guy starts to affect your life in a bad way.
This is the beginning of a toxic relationship, and you can read more about how this dynamic works in the article “Why Every Girl You Date Is A Psycho”. I was scared of being confronted with the possibility of my inadequacy as a Man who can’t seduce a Woman that he desires. I was focused on everything that could go wrong, instead of focusing on What Could Go Right.
In relationships, the Law of Attraction isn’t a magical, mystical, fancy-pants mating dance that somehow beckons beautiful Women to throw themselves at you.
It is a law – much the same as gravity – but it isn’t what you think it would be.