In traditional American dating, a man and woman meet each other, decide they want to get to know each other better and start dating.Once their relationship has reached a serious point, they meet each other's parents.
While I understand and sympathize with that struggle, it is important to make clear that just because something is the norm in one’s society, does not justify participating in it.
In the society that the Prophet (sal-Allahu alayhi wa-sallam) lived, burying little girls alive was the norm.
Of course, the principles of Islam prohibited such barbarism – regardless of what was widespread at the time.
In fact, the Prophet (sws) has told us that those who follow the right path will always be ‘different’ or ‘strange’ to the mainstream.
In one beautiful hadith, the Prophet (sws) says: (Ahmad) Secondly, you state the concern of getting to know someone for marriage.